We all talk to ourselves. Constantly. There’s a voice telling us a story whether we know it or not.
Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “Voice? What voice? What’s he talking about?” That’s the voice I’m talking about. The one that’s chattering away at you whether you know it or not.
- “I don’t have time for this.”
- “This isn’t working fast enough.”
- “No one is noticing.”
- “I can’t do this perfectly.”
- “I’m all alone doing this practice thing. Maybe I’m crazy.”
Like all distortions, there is some truth to all of these. But there is also a big dose of nonsense.
- “I don’t have time for this.” Yes, you’re busy. But you have the same amount of time as anyone else. And if this work is truly important, you have plenty of time.
- “This isn’t working fast enough.” True, human change is the slowest of all movements. But just because it’s slow doesn’t mean that you aren’t progressing in crucial ways.
- “No one is noticing.” That’s possible, but it’s also possible you haven’t asked them or you haven’t shared that you’re working on this important area.
- “I can’t do this perfectly.” Of course you can’t. If you could, you wouldn’t be practicing. We have to practice in the ways we can, not the ways we can’t.
- “I’m all alone… Maybe I’m crazy.” It’s very likely that someone else very close to you is also working to grow, but you just don’t know it. That’s one more good reason for building a crew of like-minded people.
Pros get skilled at noticing the internal chatter of that voice. They listen with a wry smile, then choose a better thought and get back to practicing. That’s how they become pros in the first place. That’s how they become safe and sane for others in a chaotic world.