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Getting Unstuck

Coach long enough, and you'll likely find yourself in a situation like this: You've helped someone identify a compelling vision of the future. They say they want to change. They even make faltering steps forward. But when you step back and look at it, you know deep...

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Turning the Tables

I was reading a piece by my colleague, Dave Wondra, on coaching recently and it struck a cord. Dave, a master coach, was writing while sitting in his favorite pickup truck, watching his daughter's soccer team practice. He realized that she has improved at soccer...

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Turning Wolves into Sheep Dogs

Not too long ago, a client asked a challenging question: We have some professionals we want to coach, but they refuse to engage. They're lone wolves. How do we get them to participate in our mentoring process? OK, first the obvious. I've written in a previous post...

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Are You Provoking Change?

If you hang in there and coach someone for any length of time, you'll reach a moment where you're completely frustrated with the pace of change. You will feel like you have banged your head against a wall and it just won't budge. The person is stuck, frozen. And you...

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Feedback Anxiety

Quick quiz: How many professionals go out of their way to get feedback? I don't have a scientific answer to this question, but here's my very strong experience-based hunch: very, very few! Part of my standard coaching approach includes setting up consistent feedback...

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Tough Feedback

And now for some of the most challenging parts of coaching a colleague: the tough feedback conversation. Let's face it, this is why so many of us don't like to coach. It's bad enough that you're investing in someone who may or may not make dramatic progress. It...

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The Dog Ate My Homework

In a recent post, I talked about using homework assignments to gain traction when coaching a colleague. A while back, a client asked me this question: What do you do when the person you're coaching hasn't done their homework? This client of mine is an immensely...

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Gaining Traction

Do you ever feel like you're working harder than the person you're coaching? Like you thought they were committed to taking an action and somewhere between your conversations, their tires slipped? Don't despair and don't give up. Anyone who has coached for more than a...

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The Most Powerful Feedback

Judy lives one block from my house. For nearly ten years, I have walked by her house, played with my children in the park across the street from her driveway, and even occasionally greeted her in passing. But until recently, Judy spooked me a little. She is getting...

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Get In Position

As a young professional, I got very lucky. My first manager was perhaps the most natural coach I have ever met. Most of anything good I've achieved I owe to him - he gave me opportunities, believed in my ability far more than I did, and spent time with me. He also...

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Focus, Focus, Focus

So let's say you've gotten started on the right foot in your coaching work. You've anticipated questions the colleague you're coaching might have about this shift in your relationship and you've answered them credibly. You've watched for typical reactions to engaging...

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Press hard, there are three copies

Like anything new (baseball seasons, for example), coaching relationships usually begin optimistically. I'm assuming here that both parties are engaged in coaching voluntarily (ie they aren't hostages!) and that both people have at least a basic level of respect for...

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