We’ve all heard that so many times. From friends, colleagues, even big company marketing campaigns.
But do you have my back? It’s easy to say. It’s harder to show.
- Listening shows that I’m worth your time. Since it’s hard to listen in a hurry, listening shows me that you’re investing something precious in me. Your time.
- Listening shows that I’m worth your attention. We all know when someone is locked in and when they’re distracted. When you listen – really listen – it tells me that you have set other things aside. Even urgent, important things.
- Listening shows me that I can influence how you think and behave. You’re not a closed book. You’re taking in what I have to say. You’re considering it.
- Listening gives me hope that I can make my best contribution around you. My ideas and energy have somewhere to flow because you’re open. And the environment makes me more likely to problem-solve, suggest, and play.
Feel free to say you have my back all you want. But showing beats telling every day. And listening is one of the best ways to show that I should trust you.