Just in case you want to destroy all hope of listening well, let me help you out with a few tips.

Start by being in a hurry. Hurry is that internal clock. It ticks so loudly that you can’t hear what the other person is saying. It’s also that internal conversation you have with yourself, “C’mon! Get moving! I have so many other things I need to do.”

Add that unhealthy dose of self-focus to your hurry. Keep asking yourself what you have to do to take care of you, to achieve your goals. Be completely focused on your agenda. Ruthlessly ignore the signals from others that they care about something different. Refuse to be interrupted.

In a delicious irony, self-focus cultivates even more hurry because hurry feeds on the anxiety we get by focusing on ourselves. And hurry turns you even more in on yourself. It’s a vicious Cycle of Absence that leads you to be absent no matter where your body is.

Do that for a while. Make it a habit. You’ll wind up being a normal, boring leader who can’t listen.

But I hope you don’t.

Be bright